want or need?

and sometimes its so difficult to differentiate difficult to set the message across i need some romance and i do say it so i dont get what i need and how am i supposed to.deal.with it? when both have different demands in bed how to deal with my needs? if i have to diy myself then defeats the purpose of intimacy with another. i am nearing 30 i dont wanna get old feeling like i have been missing out alot on kissing etc but how do i get it since i have asked for it and it still doesnt happen? when one likes and one dont? am i supposed to just keep and keep making myself feel like it doesnt matter when it matters alot to me and when i cant take it anymore and then?